tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post5433090281605896675..comments2024-03-18T01:29:51.116+05:30Comments on My Tumbling Thoughts to the World: Suicide-Is it always the last option and is it really?Suruchihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-75623129487422456352011-11-04T23:24:15.043+05:302011-11-04T23:24:15.043+05:30Hello,
Well i got to ur blog today itself thro...Hello, <br /> Well i got to ur blog today itself through twitter n started reading n reading.. <br /> i came onto this post n thought of commenting on it coz i have experienced something like that from up close n personal..<br /> Firstly my views - committing such an act is total cowardice, is a disease, or it can be just a knee jerk reaction.. people get hurt, angry or even to the extent of getting depressed.. Its either an act of cowardice where people just get tired of thinking "why is this happeneing to me..." <br /> Depression is the most common cause when a particular person has no one to open upto... that is something which i think friends n family should recognize, talk it out, get treated n lead him to happiness..<br /> As per astrology or as per life - however people take it - difficult times r bound to come in our life at some stage.. how we react to it, face it, come over it coz eventually its gonna get over decides how we r gonna lead our lives.. those who give in are known as CASES...<br /> Now coming on to me... well am a doctor myself, a young one at it, got married n guess what - My wife tried to commit sucide bout 8 months into the marriage.. She survived that Purely coz of i should say Gods grace n my family's Luck.. Or else my parents n me wud have been in jail for sure.. (reason i hate these laws).. <br />Now we r getting seperated n still in the process (reason i am posting this as anonymous - later i shall sometime comment again) but the reason for seperation is not that we r having any problems but that we talked to her family for showing her to a doctor who will treat her n may b lead her to a normal life..<br />Now this is another reason for these cases which is people think that if they go to a psychiatrist they r labelled MAD... they r not ready to accept it as a normal disease which can b cured…<br /> So its on to us to keep a watch n if we find anything amiss in anyone, talk to the person to get out of him the reasons n get that to the family concerned..<br />Well this has become a whole long blogpost rather than a comment bt then just wanted to share it I think..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-22021759892486390252011-10-30T19:46:01.201+05:302011-10-30T19:46:01.201+05:30i had just read your post on ur mother & as i ...i had just read your post on ur mother & as i was scrolling down your other posts, this one caught my attention - quite obviously because of the title<br /><br />i have been there & back <br />(my own experience documented here -http://sujathasathya.blogspot.com/2011/09/inside-suicide.html) <br />& i was curious to read your perspective<br /><br />m glad you were not judgmental at all, which is the easy route to take & in fact tried to know & feel & wonder what must go thru a person's mind who contemplates suicide. kudos for thatSujatha Sathyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00448034391267400236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-87455857546858938542011-05-14T17:15:00.313+05:302011-05-14T17:15:00.313+05:30Hi Suruchi... this is what I had written - I asked...Hi Suruchi... this is what I had written - I asked the same questions like you did here:<br />http://punamjr.blogspot.com/2010/07/when-its-all-over.html<br /><br />But there is something I wish to tell you - that the state in which a person is when he is in grief or depressed, we can not fathom with a normal mind, It's a state of loneliness and despair that sends shivers inside the brain. It is a medical condition that needs to be addressed, because any person in his senses does not usually find the guts to go ahead with the step. The thinking mind reminds him of pain, of disability etc. <br />But the depressed mind does not THINK. Such a person actually feels the depression in every vein of his body - it's not just a state of mind. The depression, the sorrow and the sadness take over the soul, and one just wants to end everything because THAT depressing feeling is not going away. It's THAT feeling one actually hates because it reminds you of how things are so bad in your life. If you have ever been hysterical in a state of very high fever, that is the feeling I would easily equate to the mind that is pushing towards suicidal tendencies. <br />Apart from lots of love, medical care and a good psychiatrist is absolutely essential to avoid repeating episodes of depressive symptoms.Punamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00794029561273711202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-24669569208752832182011-03-21T00:40:32.128+05:302011-03-21T00:40:32.128+05:30Thanks Sudhir,
It is indeed a sad waste of preciou...Thanks Sudhir,<br />It is indeed a sad waste of precious life and happy faces!Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-15180427285964569762011-03-16T10:44:13.803+05:302011-03-16T10:44:13.803+05:30I had a very moving experience a few years back. i...I had a very moving experience a few years back. i met some really clever boys from IIT in the train when i visited india. one particular boy impressed me very much. he was reading ' To kill a mocking bird.' such taste at 19! <br />imagine my shock when i came to know that he too had hanged himself. Hope his soul is rested. The world became that much poorer. <br />a thought provoking article indeed.Sudhir Kekrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16651500208090312320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-26540068357783319212011-03-13T12:46:15.559+05:302011-03-13T12:46:15.559+05:30Heylo AGL,
Fighting is what we all do always, righ...Heylo AGL,<br />Fighting is what we all do always, right?<br />Fighting with life or for life and sometimes to end the dumps of life!<br />I do agree that we should keep fighting and this was an attempt to plead to do the same.<br />Giving up is difficult but yet easier in comparison!<br />Thanks for reading!Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-90356565332215486372011-03-13T12:46:02.147+05:302011-03-13T12:46:02.147+05:30Hi Sakshi,
I understand baby, whatever the reasons...Hi Sakshi,<br />I understand baby, whatever the reasons may be...and you never have to say sorry.<br />There is always light at the end of the tunnel...but sometimes the tunnel becomes excruciatingly dark and long.<br />Let’s pray for more patience for everyone and the light appears sooner than later.<br />HugsSuruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-50697537764643566902011-03-13T12:45:45.720+05:302011-03-13T12:45:45.720+05:30Hamarivani,
Would do...thank you!
Hi Linhy
Would ...Hamarivani,<br />Would do...thank you!<br /><br />Hi Linhy<br />Would check you out...thanks for dropping bySuruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-73766000288124415152011-03-13T12:45:26.668+05:302011-03-13T12:45:26.668+05:30Hi Uncle J,
That is what I meant..for many it is a...Hi Uncle J,<br />That is what I meant..for many it is a battle of what we are leaving behind and for others it is a care-a-damn...once I am gone and released, what bindings remain?<br />An ear to talk to that does not transcend into a mouth to talk about it outside or criticise you, is perhaps the rarest commodity in modern times!Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-64725488053583255392011-03-13T12:45:13.825+05:302011-03-13T12:45:13.825+05:30Hi Talha n Asma,
Suicide should not really be the ...Hi Talha n Asma,<br />Suicide should not really be the last option.<br />In fact if it was an ideal, perfect world, I would say it is not among the options at all...wishful thinking perhaps can get us there!Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-62942707569377554892011-03-13T12:44:49.115+05:302011-03-13T12:44:49.115+05:30Hi Me,
I am so sorry that you had to go through th...Hi Me,<br />I am so sorry that you had to go through that and I can’t even say that I understand the agony cause no one can ever.<br />But the sad part is that we never really know that someone is sad to such a proportion till something tragic like this happens.<br /><br />People talk about their sorrows but rarely about their intention to end their lives and it always leaves us with ‘it is too late now’ regret.<br />Thanks for reading n sharing your view.Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-41988535442588468592011-03-13T12:44:32.403+05:302011-03-13T12:44:32.403+05:30Hi Tanvi,
It is a punishment...more so for those w...Hi Tanvi,<br />It is a punishment...more so for those whom we leave behind and less for us who actually get released.<br />That’s an intriguing take...maybe a few strange minds actually commit suicide to punish those around them.<br />N yes, may we or anyone else never have to go through that painSuruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-71046880306382170162011-03-13T12:44:09.213+05:302011-03-13T12:44:09.213+05:30Ria,
It is never easy agreed...and hence the need ...Ria,<br />It is never easy agreed...and hence the need for such souls to get guidance...wish there was a less judgemental forum and wish everyone had friends whom they could trust and speak their hearts out with.Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-78147069638707773092011-03-13T12:43:52.342+05:302011-03-13T12:43:52.342+05:30Hi BA,
“aatmdha is the biggest crime because you ...Hi BA,<br /><br />“aatmdha is the biggest crime because you killed someone you loved, probably the most.”<br /><br />That’s an amazing line...if only we all understand the import of it.<br />We make that person suffer, we kill that person’s desires, we make life hell for that one person whom we love the most...ourselves.<br />If only we could turn things around for us in the other positive way.<br /><br />What you mentioned about the student hanging himself is such a sad waste of life and love spent on him.Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-42404876094225343782011-03-13T12:43:39.939+05:302011-03-13T12:43:39.939+05:30Hi Rahul,
I would never sympathise with students w...Hi Rahul,<br />I would never sympathise with students who commit suicide because of lesser grades and the like.<br />It is really unfortunate that parents have to bear the loss and love for such foolish children who do not realise that if they are breaking the grades expectations of their parents, worse is breaking those expectations where they would like to see their children in front of their eyes for life.<br /><br />And the rate at which this ‘seclusion in inclusion’ syndrome is becoming common...it is scary. We are with people and in all the activity and yet alone!<br /> They really should be brought back to life and then sentenced to death.Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-62824100637273842062011-03-13T12:43:19.660+05:302011-03-13T12:43:19.660+05:30Hi Biky,
You are absolutely right when you say tha...Hi Biky,<br />You are absolutely right when you say that such people need love and such are the people who feel alone...<br />Being alone especially in a crowd can be devastating!<br />Thank you for the thoughts. We can only hope things like these don’t happen around people we care for or anyone for that matter.Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-26558199295662409352011-03-13T12:43:01.465+05:302011-03-13T12:43:01.465+05:30Hi CutiePriya,
It’s like a khaye on one side and a...Hi CutiePriya,<br />It’s like a khaye on one side and a kuan on the other...<br />Like they say between the devil and the deep blue sea, when the situation in between is actually no better:/Suruchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352785820589232058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-10860909552146292852011-03-09T01:01:16.605+05:302011-03-09T01:01:16.605+05:30Suicide is by no means an option, ever, life is al...Suicide is by no means an option, ever, life is all about what Dylan referred to as fighting against the dying of the light, and we should do that to the last minute.<br /><br />Interesting read.A Great Liarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00726324062407699145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-27446035420000836892011-03-06T22:46:38.745+05:302011-03-06T22:46:38.745+05:30I am sorry Su, I couldn't even go through the ...I am sorry Su, I couldn't even go through the entire post.<br />I have my reasons.<br /><br />I just want to say, that, life is precious and sometimes, the whole magic of having that life is lost on to us. There are things that no one can fathom, sadness that is hidden behind the fake smiles and death, the inevitable solution. <br />I wish that, sadness could be read like a book, and help could be at hand!<br /><br />I really hope and pray, that we don't lose the magic of life and preserve, whatever we have to make the best of it- because- There is always light at the end of the tunnel!Sakshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13560563322184558228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-65602805982925560282011-03-03T21:53:20.027+05:302011-03-03T21:53:20.027+05:30Suruchi,
Almost all of us at some point or the ot...Suruchi,<br /><br />Almost all of us at some point or the other in life consider committing suicide. I as a layman have my own thinking on reasons for a person to take this step. Those are suffering an illness beyond recovery, feeling of guilt after doing something which in own eyes is not acceptable thus inability to face near & dear ones after that and sudden provocation. And all three situations can be overcome if one can have good ear to talk to. When one takes this step, mind is totally clouded with the problem faced and logic is not there at all. If there is even a little thought that what legacy one would leave behind after such step instead of AAP MARE TO JAG PARLAY ( When I die, it is end of the world ), that would be deterrent.<br /><br />Take careJackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15896075408610203350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-49457686549754120202011-03-03T16:13:27.510+05:302011-03-03T16:13:27.510+05:30We should never think about suicide. All of us hav...We should never think about suicide. All of us have to try to love and life will turn out fine.Asmahttp://www.incrediblepakistan.net/hunza-valley/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-36249858607876551112011-03-03T16:12:26.697+05:302011-03-03T16:12:26.697+05:30Suicide is not even the last option for meSuicide is not even the last option for meSharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061475839923643804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-40539785183890522632011-03-03T13:31:12.638+05:302011-03-03T13:31:12.638+05:30My cousin decided to end his life 6 yrs back and w...My cousin decided to end his life 6 yrs back and we are still wish we could have had that conversation. Wish he could have talked to us and we could have shared his problems.<br /><br />I know it is easier to say ki fattu tha and all.. but killing oneself is a major decision and a requires lot of courage :(<br /><br />I wish people could reach out to each other more often....Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16899821466517313609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-55421354830004289362011-03-02T22:15:26.507+05:302011-03-02T22:15:26.507+05:30Thought provoking ... but all my thoughts are echo...Thought provoking ... but all my thoughts are echo of yours other others who have written before me. People who do take this step are brave in my eyes. Brain is a mysterious organ and only the person knows the situation he or she is in. I can only pray that no one close to me takes this step for I am selfish and do not want to go through the loss. So it would be just for my and other loved ones sake ... and if I ever reach a point that I decide to take this step ... then I think it would be to punish the people who love me ... 'coz I think this is the worst punishment anyone can give the ones he/she leaves behind - Unanswered Questions and Guilt. Will kill them alive!Tanvihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05491567577469019680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8871236373811077643.post-14709755824452658762011-03-02T21:26:43.934+05:302011-03-02T21:26:43.934+05:30Nobody knows what goes on in the mind of the perso...Nobody knows what goes on in the mind of the person who takes such a drastic step to end his/her life. As much as we wud like to dissect this topic n give our opinion on it....<br />Its not easy for the person who decides to take such a step all of a sudden. Mebbe they feel that this is the only way to end all the problems in life.Riàhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00522045043501343739noreply@blogger.com