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14 March, 2010

Love is Blind!


From two weeks I have been witnessing a couple who come for an evening walk in the college campus that I go to. They would have not evoked from me a mention here, had they not presented an exceptional sight.

The man somewhere in his late thirties, average height and glasses, is wheatish, with a regular face and the woman beside him is petite and pretty may be a few years younger. They are well dressed, their carriage boasting of a good upbringing and confidence of a good education.
And this is not what was uncommonly striking about them!

The couple walks at a very brisk pace, holding each others' hands.
Yes, for almost one hour that they take rounds of the campus and often cross my path, I find their palms clasped and intact there. Initially I thought it was very romantic to be doing so.
But gradually it became a bit unnerving!

We are generally not so unhappy about something lacking in our lives till we find it blooming in someone else’s. It’s been my unfulfilled desire since time immemorial to go for long walks with someone I loved. So the reactions began with “Awwww” but soon transformed to “Oh god, again today!” I was realizing why PDA-public display of affection, is intimidating for some!
But the love struck couple would not bother about me, or anyone else, as though their eyes were fixed only on to their destination!

Anyways, so every day without fail, I watch them sojourn the paths and take a glance at their countenances, making an effort not to stare, yet wondering at the motives behind the clasp. It’s not like one partner would run away...or maybe the guy’s too possessive...his wife was exquisite in her own right, after all! Maybe they’ve just been married, though it did not seem that way and even if they are...holding each other by the hand for an hour in a park doing a brisk walk does not justify that, does it?

Now to get to the arrestingly remarkable part...nope, I am not done with it yet!

Yesterday evening, I saw them again. As usual, doing their thing caring a f@#$ about what the world thought!
And then the lady stumbled...
Just a few pebbles on the way but enough to get the grasp undone!
And within seconds I saw the mystery unfold...

The man had gone a few steps ahead and rushed back immediately for he saw her groping!
Her fingers searching to hold on to his!
The pretty lady’s focus of her eyes had shifted.
She is blind!
How much, why, how...I have no clue...but enough to make her man hold on to her hand to lead her on her way...the physical challenge not becoming a handicap in leading a normal life!

The crisis was soon handled...a couple of reassuring words and a pat from him, a smile from her, the clasp back again and the footsteps quickened to rhythm, as they soon went past me, leaving me with a spasm in my heart!

True, unconditional and sacrificing love so rare...whenever you come across it, it rarely leaves you unaffected!

What an effort it must have been for the lady to muster courage to walk without a stick or dark glasses to face a public domain, despite all hang-ups that may deter them!
What a support it must have been from the man in love with her, to be willing and motivating her to do so despite only him being conscious of the stares they were inducing!
What a stupid mindset we have to judge people and motives of others, by appearances, without an inkling of what’s going on in their lives!
What foolish claims we make of love that we offer and indifferently handle the love given to us, when in such tests of time, we might simply fail!


Well, it is said ‘Love is blind and lovers cannot see’...well in this case...literally!

40 comments:

mohit said...

wow..... that surely makes us think, doesn't it...

you're so right in the last part:

"What foolish claims we make of love that we offer and indifferently handle the love given to us, when in such tests of time, we might simply fail!"

yea, I've felt the pangs of jealousy at witnessing PDA, only to find myself genuinely happy for the couple....whereas I myself have been dry towards some of my own..

loved the way you captured the feeling
:)

suruchi said...

Yup..it does..
Thanks Mohit...
I am also genuinely happy for couples who dare to go mush in public...it's not for everyone though...I force my beloved to hold hands and love to see him cringe..lol:-)

Thanks for stopping by...needless to say I have loved reading u too:-)

Rahul Khatri said...

wow...how touching tale. true love is such rare and the impact of it, uncomparable. so true.

I hope I get that (as most of us do
and dream of!!)

We always think of what we'll get in love, bur so few think of what we gonna give, coz Love is giving and sharing, but we usually see the third aspect of it!!

Thanks for sharing such a wonderful tale SC, btw, in no time, u can surely create "Kanpurian evenings" as we have Arabian nights for sure he he!!;):))

suruchi said...

Hey Rahul,
Thanksssssssss..true love is all that we live for:-)

And yours is waiting somewhere for u:-)

And I absolutely looooooooooooUve the idea of "Kanpurian evenings"...only u could have thought so:-)

Vemuri said...

touched and made me ask u - is it real or u r just writing a blog story here? sounds so surreal but really touchy

so true on being judgemental and also full marks to the couple and to the author who managed to see them through her eyes and managed to open few windows of wisdom

suruchi said...

True love is surreal Sri,
And even when we have it around we sometimes are so tuned to being suspicious that we doubt and spoil our chances of knowing how it actually feels...

Thanks for the full marks...yiyeee:-))

medsin said...

Very touching....its amazing how human strength,of character, can stop you in your tracks...

suruchi said...

Medsin...
Thanks...yup it is...
Strength of character only...I guess...
How strong it is though and does it always stand the test of time...that time can tell...

Thanks for coming here again...u know it means a lot to me
Big smiles doc:-)))))))))))

malpani.!! said...

lovely post..:)

but u call PDA - holding hands..
they call PDA in bombay something els.. which i rather not mention here.. :p

but a nice one..!! about my not so fav topic LOUVE..!!

shikha said...

True Suruchi,
We can never fully understand the power of love...n in a way its nice cos incidents like these strengthen our faith in love....n of course,
you have the knack of putting in words the exact emotions which makes reading ur blog so much more interesting.hats off to u ma'am :-))

suruchi said...

Hi Malpani...
Here after sooooooo long...

And I loUve ur "loUve" in that post of urs so much that I now use it unabashed anywhere n everywhere*generally on my fb statuses*

Yeh to PDA ka trailer tha...picture abhi baaki hain boss...
Ask me what all I coax my beloved into...by emotional blackmail of "Hellooooooo...u have married me..stop behaving like a scared 16 year old out on a date...err...actually behave like a curious one"Lolzzzzzz;-)

Have a great night!

suruchi said...

Hellooooooooooooow Shikhu:-)
Me and my knacks...hain na?;-)
abhi hat pehen lo aap...
kahin uttarne ke aadat padh gaye to pata nahi aage aage hota hain kya?;-)

Mazaaaaaaaak hain...so stop giving me the cute killer looks;-)
Hugssssssssss:-))

sulagna ™ said...

beautifully written su...really nice

suruchi said...

Thanks Su:-)
Hugsssssssss:-)

Madhu said...

i think no relationship is strong enough unless it is tested..and its only there that we fall short of our act is..love is not blind,but deaf and dumb too...for it understands only the feelings.Nothin else!

Amnn.......//1! said...

hey tat was a realli sweet post .. loved it ,,,!!

suruchi said...

@Madhu...so very well said...
I guess the senses do become numb n secondary...
Love is all about a connect...a feeling...a surreal transport to a dream that u don't want to wake up from...

Harsh realities of life bring us back to the ground and it is then up to us to make it realize in its true implication:-)

suruchi said...

Hey thanks Amn...
It's so sweet to hear that from u:-)

rainboy said...

:) That's what true love is I suppose. Unconditional love...

I wish I had someone :(

thank you for writing , I loved this
take care

Joe said...

that was really nice .. ! enjoyed reading it!!

suruchi said...

Hey Rainboy...
Awwww....I wish you had someone soon too...though enjoy the wait...it's the time full of hope and excitement of meeting someone eventually...
We all do...it's just a matter of sooner or later...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts...
Hugsssssssssss till you get your special someone:-)

suruchi said...

That was really nice of you Joe to leave a comment...
I so enjoyed the "really" there:-)

Anonymous said...

Stereotype - Great subject. Write more on that and open up minds. We all fall prey to this....all the time. We are all different yet we have the urge to put everyone in boxes. Gods hand made each of us.....machines don't exist there....do they?

suruchi said...

Hmmm....I wish the boxing would stop..of the world with us and we with ourselves:-)
Thanks for echoing a bit of me:-)

rainboy said...

@ suruchi ::
Thank you dear... hugssss :)

take care

suruchi said...

@Rainboy...I am glad u smiled:-)
Anyone n everyone smiling is good n a must:-)

buckingfastard said...

so what is true love.... those 20 sumthing trusting his boyfrnd wid her virginity...or this 30 sumthing trusting his man to be her eyes!!!

why latter gets acknowledgment..and former is just lust?

for me both are as important as long as we can keep our stereotype judgments away

suruchi said...

Hmmm..true love I guess is seen more in the nitty gritties of every day life...
The small gestures that show that you are cared for...beyond lust n beyond deriving anything out of it...

True love is too vast to be understood and probably often more overestimated...it is some thing we move ahead on in quest...

So let it be wrapped in some mystery and the anticipation that some day we might feel it too...or else it takes away the charm from life....

Though you do have a point there...
I guess I was being judgemental too...I am no one to doubt the love of the 20 something...each one to his own...

But selfless love like this is difficult to come by...and hence I tend to swoon when I witness it:-))

Thanks for the food for thought:-)

lena said...

I imagine also the level of trust the lady had for the man, not only her courage.

It is indeed a rare thing in human relationships :)

Which is actually a sad one!

suruchi said...

I know Lena...
That was what was so amazing about it all...
It seemed like it was all a part of the day's work...:-))
And the peaceful facial expressions reminded what cribbing babies we really are...

Thank you for commenting here...I really love the creativity that goes on in your blog:-))

Anand M said...

Suruchi,

Simple yet striking...a real nice one..

Do check this out..http://anandmaddy.blogspot.com/2010/03/of-babies-making-babies-and-grown-up.html

Nipun said...

It was a touching story, Chips. There are lessons to be learnt from the "lady and the man". The way we judge (or misjudge) is a matter of great intrigue to me. I guess, judging in itself is not wrong. There's nothing wrong in judging others. It becomes wrong when we judge others merely by appearances. Also, it is wrong to judge something/someone when you are doing the same thing in the first place. Then you are not being a good judge, you are just being a hypocrite. It is rightly said that if you want to judge or teach others, you must apply the same standard to yourself.

Enough of this ramble. Now, on a lighter note, your evening walks might not help you in keeping your body toned, but they sure are beneficial for your readers. I hope your power of observation continues to serve you well, so that you keep on giving your readers a chance to observe your observations, and based on that let us make our own observations.

Au revoir... :)

suruchi said...

Hi Anand...
Thanks...
Would check the link for sure...
Have a great day!:-))

suruchi said...

Hello Nips...
Aap aaye hamare comment box mein Khuda ke something something hain...
kabhi hum aapko n kabhi apne post ko dekhte hain;-)

Judging others without complete understanding of the person or situation is a crime...
We don't think once before forming opinions...
We become careless or rash in giving praise or criticism..
When what one needs is empathy and maturity and time to really know someone...
We must always keep some scope in our dislike for like and vice versa...

And on the lighter note again...my evening walks do help me btw in keeping my body toned*since we were on the lighter note...I thought I'd make a joke there*

My power of observations and many others are serving me well...as you would vouch for;-)

Au revoir...
Always n forever:-)

ReggaeVideos said...

Great post, certainly something we should keep in the back of our heads...how to get your ex back

Prithwish....... said...

hey suruchi...
wonderful and moving post..an enriching lession for life :):)
carry on mam..we are reading :)

cheers,
Prithwish

suruchi said...

Hello Reggae Videos...
Thank u...
Not just at the back on our heads, let's keep it ahead,on the sides n everywhere...lolzz:-)

Keep returning:-)

suruchi said...

Thaaaaaaaaaaaaaanks Prithwish...
You are such a sweet follower...
I am glad you drop in every now and then...:-)
It's completely my pleasure to see you here:-)

Cheers,
Suruchi:-)

piyu said...

Truly touching :)

suruchi said...

Thanks Piyu:-)
It is!

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