Nope...not because who would pay our bills otherwise!
Definitely not for we can’t blame destiny or the government all the time!
N also not because not everything can be answered by Google!
Husband is a strange specimen!
But before we realize we want one...we must know why we actually need him!
Imagine your face filled up with pimples*okay, that’s quite ghastly even for imagination...not filled up but kinda bursting out at spots with them*
At a tragic time like this, he would be the one who would still cup your face in his hands and not search for a spot that is blemish free.
He’d leave a moist imprint of his kiss and tell you, you are still beautiful!
You’d be walking down the road together and while the others compliment you on the dress...dear husband would be the one to notice that your feet look pretty today for you have applied nail paint on it after a while*never mind if he forgot to observe the outcome of Rs. 500 blown on your last hair cut!*
He’d be the unhesitant volunteer to cuddle you, if you moan and wake him up in the middle of the night n from his deepest of slumber and say,
“Suno ji...so gaye kya? Mujhe neend nahi aa rahe hain!”
And he’d wake up with a start, all nervous to ask if all was okay!
And then keep you cosy in his arms...
His palm not giving up on patting your head, even while his tired eyes refuse to open up!
You need a husband, for times when you stand facing a show window and looking greedily at an over prized designer wear that would be a crime to buy and a sin to leave...And he’d walk over from behind and say, “Take it. It’s been a while since I have gifted you anything!”
Only a husband would be as excited about your girls’ day out as all the girls themselves *Never mind, if it is just to get gory details of your escapades*
But he’d tell you to have fun and don’t bother about home for he’ll manage the show!
And he’d be the one, who would not call, to embarrass you, but be messaging you, as soon as it gets dark for he wants you to be home safe!
It is only a husband, who’d go into the “I-am-useless-for-I-can’t-keep-my-wife-happy” mode at the slightest hunch of you in the blues...
Or keep asking you persistently “what’s wrong?” even when you tell him to lay off rudely!
The day you appear less than usual chirpy, he’d call you as soon as he reaches office, although a hundred impending tasks threaten him!
You need him you’ll realize, when he sends a message from office with a smiley face for no reason at all...
You need a husband, for when you feel grumpy like the world’s been a nightmare he’d find ways to mend it, even if it is not his fault!
You would look at the watch and ask him to make a move from your parents place and he’d insist on you both staying a little longer, for he feels your family is yet not satiated of having you to stare, pamper n care!
If you find yourself stuck in a crowd of unknown faces and known bored feelings, there’ll be a face looking out for you, just as you’d be looking out for him...
That face is of a husband, who wants to make sure the woman he brought in on his arm, is not lost and not just physically!
You need a husband, for he’ll not break into a “bachelor’s” party when separated from you, even for a while...but lie dull n low for he’ll openly acknowledge there’s no joy without you, even in the merriest of recreations!
He’s a strange creature I tell you, for he would be having funny ailments gnawing his own body, but would panic at the idea of you having to suffer, even just by a minor muscle pull. He’d never be able to pick up the phone to get his own doctor’s appointment...But he’ll never be able to forget reminding you to make yours, till you get frustrated and give in!
In sleep, he would unknowingly grope with his hands on the bed, till your skin comes within the reach of his searching fingers and then continue to sleep!
Even in his subconscious, he would want to hold you!
You need a husband for when you say “I do not like wet towels on the laundry basket”, he’d be willing to let go of old habits!
Tell him, ‘Why can’t you at least hang your shirt on the hanger of the cupboard, if you decide not to wear it?” and find some 8 shirts nicely opened and floating over the rods, but at least not strewn across the bed!
It’s a husband, who would give in to feed you Chinese food for you want it, despite him not enjoying it...turn the car to go back to get you an ice cream, even when you’ve almost reached home!
A husband would not think you less, although your eye brows need mending like with a lawn mower...
He would not mind the comfortable cotton underclothes*although appreciate seductive satin of once in a while with incomparable enthusiasm* for it makes you feel better rather than looking better!
In fact you can still be wearing the faded night shirt since time immemorial and that would not detest him from exploring what is within it!
It is a husband who would say he’s the happiest man on earth, when on his birthday, all that you gift him, is yourself wrapped in new, sexy lingerie!
To a husband you can show the emergence of white hair and even make him count them to console you later, when you crib about it!
He would not mind*okay, at least not all the time*if you do not take a shower before coming to bed!
You would see the glitter of pride in his eyes, when you look extra ravishing on a particular night out...like maybe Bill Gates would have upon receiving his first recognition for the ownership of something exquisite!
It is a husband who would beam with equal joy as you, when others appreciate his wife or look at him with envy!
So although having a boyfriend or live-in partners can be learning grounds for the ultimate experience....
There’s no feeling as liberating as taking someone for granted to love you no matter what...
To have never an iota of doubt behind the reason why he is so affectionate with you...and would he be like this forever?
To be unabashedly yourself before him, with your flaws and finesse!
To know he would never say ‘let’s take a break’!
Not everything that is being done from ages is redundant!
You need a good husband...and you ought to make it a good marriage to know how it feels!
82 comments:
500 bucks for a hair cut ain't that bad. But if you wake me up in the middle of the night? Ha! I wouldn't wake up.
If the shoes are expensive, I wouldn't say buy them. I'd just take her hand and walk away.
You know what, there's too much on this post and I think I should shut up now. Don't want to cause a public outcry now do we?
Heh. See you around.
Bloody %$*%$*^$*^$*$$%$ emotional atyachar!
GAH!
I hate chinese. GAH!
Don't even get me started on the centuries old night shirt!
GAH!
Ok, Suruchi, you win. :) * You know why I said that*
And, someone has been having a hell of a romantic time lately with her 'ji' ;P
I really liked this post. Because, if nothing else then, it does speak volumes of what my mother would want to say about my father. I will share it with them, some day.
Awwwwwwww! How sweet! I ABSOLUTELY COMPLETELY AGREE with you ... Those are all my reasons for having a husband two! 3 Cheers for such wonderful caring husbands :)
really really touche. felt like a check list for all husbands :)
nice work.
Beautiful imagery and leaves an impression as if it is one's own husband expressing his own thoughts....has a spell-bound effect!
On a saturday night, a perfect read to feel romantic, special and thankful.
Your husband is a lucky one indeed :)
Mashallah! :)
Ohh..! GOD..!! I Feel So Great Now...!!!
**//You need a husband, for he’ll not break into a “bachelor’s” party when separated from you, even for a while...but lie dull n low for he’ll openly acknowledge there’s no joy without you, even in the merriest of recreations!\\**
Facing It Now....
Wish me Luck...
:'(
This post made me forget all my woes..
Thank You So Much....
As Always... You Are The Best.....
**HUGS**
and finally, i could be first one to comment in ur post...yippieeee!!!!
oh my my...
You made the day of the entire male fraternity..boyfriends, would be husbands, existing husbands..:)
For an insitituion of Marriage, love , care and trust are the pillars to make it work throughout..the best part is that u know u have someone with you who holds ur hand and cares more for u than his own self..
I am sure u will win the hearts of all guys through this post..on a lighter side, ur post is an eye opener for all the nagging wives too:)
As usual, loved it...u rock!
i can identify with all the reasons you have :) but the one reason that is my very first is - to have a husband, to be a wife to someone because I know that profession is made for me :)
Awwwwwwwwwwwww is all can say :)
The first thing i did was send the link to my guy and was like u better read it :P ...and he was like if the link recommend reasons to have a husband i better forward :P
This is likeee so so so so awesome :) he is surely a lucky guy and i m sure u guys make a great pair!
God bless u both always :)
I am still smiling :)
superb..as usual!!!
Suruchi,
With or without your permission, I am going to circulate it to all eligible youngmen to let them know what is expected of them once they marry. LOL. Good mind searching one for those already married. Very subltle way of reminding males about DOs.
Take care
Wow!! Makes me want to get married right away....honey where are u??
Hey! Wonderful post...
Took my through an emotional roller-coaster..
"You need a husband, for when you feel grumpy like the world’s been a nightmare he’d find ways to mend it, even if it is not his fault!"
"You’d be walking down the road together and while the others compliment you on the dress...dear husband would be the one to notice that your feet look pretty today for you have applied nail paint on it after a while*never mind if he forgot to observe the outcome of Rs. 500 blown on your last hair cut!*"
Lovely lines....and so true!! Even with a boyfriend! :)
And, this has come true for me! :)
I really love loveee this post!!
OMG...someone's hyper mushy! is it anniversary time or something?
hope the husband read this :)
PS: does every girl have a night tee that can like easily get into the mueseum of pre-historic fossils??
Shay ! I need a husband now :P :P
Awww that was a DAMN nice read!
sure is a check list!
and hey I love what you've done with the header of your blog. The whole half earth thing.. damn creative :)
This line made me smile, “Take it. It’s been a while since I have gifted you anything!”
Even though you make me wanna have a husband right away. I know it for a fact, this was exaggerated. Men and life, are not as simple as we like to believe. Lets stop fooling ourselves. :)
Kisses.
Hahaa..when I read this post, I was sure you are going to make all women senti... & you are going to get hundreds of comments for this..:)
But what about the women whose boyfriends, husbands don't do all this?.. You will soon be responsible for relationship break ups & divorces..Hahaha..
super mushy there.u Love ur hubby dont ya..:)
Well that remains me,i want someone too..:( :(
Such an AWWW post..>hugs< for that.
Hi Tbg...
Well...in Kanpur...500 bucks is quite a much for a haircut;-)
And sometimes my G also does not wake...but on an average...he’d do so when required:-)
And I don’t look so pleadingly at him when I know I’ve crossed the line...
So u see..basically...I am talking about complimenting myself than he actually;-)
And OMG...centuries old T-shirts that u guys wear to bed...who’d account for that? I mean the colour would have dripped long ago...the neck hanging till the chest*well almost*...but u guys would refuse to let us throw them in the bin...
BAH!
And I know u hate Chinese...but specify here that you are talking about food...or else u just might lose some of your Chinese female followers*are they any?;-)*
Hey Tani...
You and I are blessed to have such adorable cuties to turn to each day and yes also at nights;-)
I knew you’d agree...
The kind of free spirits that we are able to be here on the blogs n everywhere else..it shows in itself that there’s a pillar of strength somewhere right behind us!
Three cheers to our hubbies:-)
Hi Sakshi...
Thank you...
I knew I’ll win...
This post was meant for a lot of my younger friends...boys n gals who feel marriage is such a passé...which it is not...
It is a wonderful communion...
A phase when you think of someone else not as a matter of responsibility or ownership...but as a matter of a rare gift to take care of!
And yes...such posts are outcome of the days when G is nice to me...wait till he gets to my nerves and watch this space...hehe...though he rarely does so...
He ends up finding so many other things to “get on”;-)
Glad you liked it...good job done from my end!
Hi Pavan...
Thank you...
It was meant to wake up women to the idea of marriages...
But if the men learn along side..I am not complaining;-)
See you around:-)
Hi Vinita Mamiji
Thank you for the persistent appreciation!
I guess appreciation in every relation counts...
And hereby I expressed mine:-)
Hi WS...
Yeh lo...my husband is lucky?
I thought the post should imply that I was the lucky one;-)
*wink, wink for managing credit for me even when I am giving it....love being a woman;-)*
Hi AIM,
I am so glad it feels great!
Biwi out of town:-(
Naye naye shaadi ke baad alag rehna...ouch...painful, right?
Awwww....big hugs...
Koi na...absence makes the heart grow fonder:-)
And with a hubby as adorable as u are...I have no doubts of it what-so-ever!
:-)
Hi Prith,
Thank u...
And so cute to be responding on behalf of the male fraternity...
I thought some would be ready to bash me post this for raising the xpectation bars of the women kind...
But as always...you are super cute with me!
I just want to reinstate the faith in marriage...
Treat it less as an institution and more as a milestone crossed after which the environ becomes better, happier n brighter...
It brings about a fulfilment of a void that we are not even aware of as existing...though it is gnawing our peace somewhere
And first comment to nahi...but foremost zaroor hain:-)
Thank u:-)
I loved your last writing though “The Others”
Would share it with friends...
Hey Scribbling Girl...
Awww...you sent a link to your guy and he actually read a post that says “why we need husbands?”...?
Then he’s an actual sweetheart and so for keeps!
If I tell my beloved to read something that borders on being a good husband or sorts...he’d first bug me by asking what are my motives behind it...lol!
We are quite a mad pair...and I am the lucky one though people always end up telling him that he is! He is the subtle player and I scream my lungs out about it!
God bless you both too and shower all his love!:-)
Thanks for stopping by!
Hi AD...
Wow...you said it so beautifully!
The reason to be a wife to someone being that profession was made for you!
It speaks so much more than big posts on such matters...
While girls think of broader perspectives...you create a profession out of being a wife and think that you were made for it!
I am soooooooo in awe by this!
And your husband should thank his lucky stars for you!
Unabashed enthusiasm about being a wife deserves thunderous applause!
Big hugs:-)
Hellow Payal,
Thank you...
You are such a darling to always read me!
Thank you Rishi n Amn for this one!
Hugs:-)
Hi Jack...
Aapko kabhi bhi mere permission ke zaroorat nahi hain!
I feel a person of your stature and credibility can never do wrong...you are too strongly driven by the conscience!
So in this or anything else...I would never doubt you!
It’s not reminding the males of the DO’S and DO NOT’S...
It’s just a subtle way of counting every little blessing to make it seem that I am a special God’s own child...when all of this can and might be already happening around you and you have not noticed it! I wanted people to know that marriages are good!
Thank you...and you take care too:-)
Hi Ria...
Please do get married right away...
But keep enough time to prepare for it rightly:-)
And I am sure the “honey” is never too far away;-)
Hey Pavitra,
Yes..if you have a good boyfriend...most of this can come true too...
But there’s something liberating about a marriage...
It can take you to a fork from where one path leads to ‘taking the spouse for granted’ and the other one ‘making him/her feel the commitment is worth while almost everyday of you life together’
It’s not tough...it happens naturally...
Marriage is a beautiful experience that everyone must go through and hopefully with the right person:-)
Thank you....
I wish you all the love always in life!:-)
Hey Blunts...
I thought this would become a complete “ladies log ke liye” post and the men would just yawn n disappear after the first couple of paragraphs...
But then you are Maggie tomato ketchup... ‘u are different’;-)
Hmmm...I guess I am hyper mushy...should check these dates every month...
May be its PMS;-)
Just kidding...coz there’s no anniversary or anything coming up...
My hubby read the first page and said...oh I got the rest of it...I know how you think now, na!
And yes every girl has some sort of clothing that could make the ape-man/woman fight with her for its origin!
But then don’t even get me started on what you boys hold on to!;-)
Hey Anwesa...
I hope you get a husband now and the kinds that would be forever!:-)
Hi Nil,
Thank you...and welcome to the blog...
Feels so great to have such talented cute bunch of new people reading me:-)
And that header thing up there just happened on its own...though a blogger friend Shayon helped me shorten it...
Otherwise I am technically duh!
How I am managing on blogosphere is a mystery even to me;-)
Hope to see you around!
Hellu MinnieRunner,
I am glad you smiled...
That line makes me smile too when its been a long while since it is said!
And makes me grin like a monkey, when its not been such a big while since its said!;-)
Hi Luscious Sealed Lips...
Wow...that’s one great name...
But then why should luscious lips be sealed?
They should be breaking out in a pout;-)
It is not exaggerated at all!
Though it is one side of a coin...the days when he puts me on his eyelids...
There are also days when he gets on to my nerves...
But thankfully the former days outnumber the latter days by such a vast figure that life does not seem to bad majorly;-)
Hi pRasad,
Hmm...I expected women to get senti too...
I expected men to be either flattered or defensive...
I believe that husbands and boyfriends do or don’t do certain things largely because of their experiences with their wives!
It is a give n take even here for sure!
As you sow, so shall you reap kinda case!
Though basic nature remains the same...basic behaviour can be altered...
If you continue to shower unconditional love with a dash of sensibility...there is no way things would not turn around the way you want them to...
So tact, love, tlc, patience are some of the keys of a big bunch that opens the lock to a ‘husband to die for’!
:-)
Hi Mady,
Yup...I do love him loads...
It keeps going through ups and downs...but then the affection remains strong which keeps us going!
You’d find someone as per your desires too...
Consciously or sub consciously we attract the kind of people whom our mind n body would be at peace with!
They may not fill up our moulds of Mr. Right at the first look...but slowly they show n prove how right they are for us!*fingers crossed for u*
Loads of love n hugs:-)
kya baat hain mushy mushy suruchi jiii :P
now i know why girls want to get married so soon ;) bcoz of all these advantages :)
HEy great post make sure you email, sms put it on wall sharts etc etc everywhere THIS Post for all the beautiful women to see and Then crave for Men..
Now thats some ad for guys ... can i can i put this on my BLOG :) he heh ehe
all this means there is love in the air..
all the best to BOTH of you
Making a relationship work, keeping it mirthful and happy always depends upon the two individuals hon. Just as you see all these wonderful things above the ones that annoy you, ditto must be from your partner's side too...which is why you have this lovely bond, which makes life worthwhile.
Putting it the way you've done is just making it sound easy, which is why I think some have disagreed. Well, I will not, bcz my guy is all these lovely things you've said. :)
Raise one for all the wonderful men out there!
p.s : Read this old post of mine, "why women love men". YOu're gonna like it.
Your husband must be very lucky :)
I loved the post, true indeed.
Mr Happy ji...
Yeh “Suruchi ji” kahan se aa jaata hain...
Nahi nahi...mein itneeeeeee respect ke kaabil nahi...lol
Yup...now you know why girls wanna get married so soon...
Almost as similar as to why boys wanna do that;-)
Hi Bikramjit...
It’s so nice to see you so often here:-)
Wow...so my post now serves as an ad for guys*the service we unknowingly do to the society;-)*
Well...you guys can pay me in cash or kind!
“Kind” if you are cute n “cash” if not that kind;-)
Thank you for the best wishes and for being around...
Love is always in the air...it’s just that we need to get our noses out of other things to be able to sniff it;-)
Hi Cin....
So glad we are sailing in the same boat....
*touchwood*
It is definitely a two-way process....
First we should be careful while settling down with a person and then careful in nurturing the relation...
At no point can we really sit back n say...
From now on...even if I don’t budge a finger...the magic would continue to swirl...:-)
So yes...a toast out for wonderful men and amazing women who let them be so!:-)
Hi Nostalgic...
Thank you...
Well...I guess I am lucky too...
Like attracts like in this case:-)
its worth a million dollar sweetheart...
u know wat amazing thing u have carved here....
true...no bf can take place of your hubby...i need one too...
loving ur blog...muha...
Do such men still exist? :O
hey..this is a super cool post..frankly even i had not thought about it.and i have been married for two years now..each and every reason in the post makes perfect sense...you can just be yourself with your husband..whether you are wearing faded night suit or have not get your eye brows done for centuries..not to mention husband is the only one to with whom you can fight and fight and fight and not worry about tomorrow. bcoz u know tomorrow he would be there..lovely post..
sovina
http://weddingonthecards.blogspot.com/
PS...following u now..don't know why i wasn't till now..:))
Nice one..!
Loved these lines "Even in his subconscious, he would want to hold you".
So true, and though I am far from a husband at this point, but yea, as pointed out by you, being in a relationship fills the gap..!
So very good. Have written a post, see if you like it:
http://anandmaddy.blogspot.com/2010/06/why-am-i-such-bad-son-papa.html
I would love to get a b'day gift like that ahaha :D
I am glad I read this. Lovely post.
Su you know we guys should be countign our blessings everyday for siging us such oerfect and yet imperfect men, men who pamper us and at the same time make us face realisty, ones who need to be looked after like a baby and yet stya up next to you when you are sick..and most importantly, just the ebst thing to sit with when you are watching the TV every evening, with your feet tucked in:)
**touchwood**
ps: i guess it goes with being the perfect G
Hi Nikita...
Love can make one go on for sure despite adversity n tests of time!
And that holds true even in the money driven world!
And my hubby would be glad to be of service to as many women as would want one like him;-)
He’s an adorable nut!
Thank you for the appreciation...
See you around!:-)
Hi S...
My husband is not extra ordinary as in looks or wealth or any other points that women crave for!
Even an ordinary person possesses extraordinary potential of love if the relation since the inception is nurtured carefully....
However you must be careful of the seed that you pick for plantation!:-)
Men are mostly puppies to love...keep giving n hear them purr...
Oh...wait a minute...that would make them kittens actually!;-)
Hi Anand...
I saw the post...brilliantly captured a story that’s been told before!
You should sooooooo write more!
It feels great to read you:-)
And you are far from being a husband, but I am sure not far from being a husband material:-)
Thank you for the appreciation!
Hi Sovi...
Oh wow!
You are married???????
There should be a legal clause specifying women to “look” married when they do so:-)
It’s the small intricacies that we miss...which when counted become a galaxy of shining blessings...if ignored remain hidden in bight glare of sunny expectations:-)
Thank you for following...I wish u loads of marital bliss:-)
Hi Rainboy....
Omg...u made me re-read the post to remember what birthday gift it was...
This was years ago...naye naye shaadi ke time ke gaathayein;-)
I wish u birthday gifts like these n more*bole to gifts n not dene waale...ache dena waales bhi..shaadi ke pehle but;-)*
I am glad that you always read my posts:-)
Thank you!
Hey Su...
I do count my blessings each day...
That’s the secret to my perpetual smiling face and sunshine!:-)
Of course there are tears...but look down on the smiles too...
There are sorrows...but also times when u can’t possibly be more elated!
Touchwood for our imperfect G factors;-)
hehe :P
I don't want more gift dene walle
Just the one who gifts me.
don't worry ,shadi se pehle I won't want that gift. I am totally old school boy.
I like reading your posts.No need so say thanks plz.
take care
Quite a popular blog you got here! And you are a teacher! What a responsibility! :)
wishes
Scribblers Inc.
he he..i would happily take the compliment..i will be married for two years this november..thanks for your wishes :) and that's sweet that you called me sovi..that's what everybody at home call me always :))
wow!! i can't wait to get my husband to read this....it's always nice to remind them every once in a while about their roles and duties...hehehe...
you go girl!
Wow. yes now I'm smitten by the husband materials. :P Need me one! :P :D Lekin shaadi se darr lagta hai! Great writing Suuuu! :)
Was down with fever so cannot read ur blog from las few posts.After reading this i was wondering i would be so unlucky coz i can't have one...he he he he...but i need to be one with such a characteristic...thks for showing...the way...
This is the longest that you've gone without a update I think. New post plz!
@Rainboy...hehe..okies!
Waise I know you are an old school young boy;-)
@Helloww Scibblers Inc...
Thank u...
And being a teacher is not such a responsibility really!
I manage to balance it all;-)
Hope to see ya around!
@Sovi...
But Sovi suits u to the T!
And November mein 2 years...wow...party time then!
Wish u all the very best always!
@Persis...
Wish my husband would read this too!:-(
Boo hoo...chalo kisse ka bhala to ho!
;-)
@Tamanna...
Please get married...and the darr would go away!
Provided u do so with the guy who makes you feel the world!
I am sure you’ll get yours soon!
All the best!
@Niraj...
You don’t need this post to be a good husband...
You already are a super duper noble person...
I can guarantee you’d be a great husband too someday to a very lucky girl:-)
Cheers!
Hope you are feeling better now!
You were missed in the comment box!
:-)
@Cin...
Thank u sweetheart for always missing me!
Muwaaah n hugs!
lol..!!
nice
this is realli realli cute actually
but i don know y all i can see is the reasons y u should not have a wife ..!1
lol..!1 i think i might come up with one o tat post ..!!loll..
Such types don't exist you know :)
Wow! Yes we need a husband for it makes us feel secure wanted and loved. A for granted feel is cherry on top :-D
amazing feel while reading it. Too touchy
Men will surely be blushing after reading your post.
Nice post altogether.
If your girl is not the prettiest in the room, its your job to make her feel so.
Very good post & well written. As a real-life husband I can certainly relate! :-)
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