16 August, 2009
A Crush Really!
What’s a crush really?
So easy to catch, so difficult to give up!
Swine flu- the world is hollering crazily...
I say the worst is yet not recognized let alone be thought of dealing with!
Most people get ‘crushed’ all the time...
Better than love...for here you don’t have to bother about taking it to the next level of “happily ever after”...you just allow it to be within you, with or without follow up action botheration!
Worse than love...for people say love happens once in a lifetime or may be twice if you are lucky, whereas crushes provide unlimited entry into their realms even at the hint of the slightest association, whether you suspect it or not! So oh- so-oftener the heart aches and burns!
More convenient than love...for you don’t have to analyse your thoughts too much, just go with the flow and enjoy the ride...!
Simpler than love too... for you can delay the process of having to go through the grind to give it that name and thereby the seriousness it deserves...!
More mind-boggling also...for you are never be certain if this is just a passing phase or something you would never be able to pass by!
It’s much like a random occurrence -a natural phenomenon...like say admiring the serene hills covered with dazzling, pristine snow- Can one do anything but that, when a whole plethora of beauty stares at you?
It’s like a sojourn into the favourite human zone of “what-if” possibilities...
You enter with a mind set of discovery and continue with hope and self justifications that it is just a crush...
Love at first sight is downright dumb and crush at first sight makes much more sense!
Many a times love burns and yearns within hearts for fear of stirring up uncertainty and restlessness, damaging a healthy friendship or simply the fear of rejection. But a crush requires no real balls really, to admit that it has made home, for it is easier to bail yourself out of it, at least on face value. If the confession evokes:
Uncertainty: “Oh yes, I am not too sure about it myself...I mean it’s just a crush...let’s chew on the thought for a while and take no action till we are surer.”
Shock: “Exactly, I am shocked too...maybe it’s just a crush...let’s take it one day at a time and see where it might take us”
Rejection: “Never mind, it’s just a crush...it would pass by without killing me really and we can get back to how we were prior to this silly confession”
And acceptance or a coy smile: “Balley, balley! The world is in your palm now!”
Bottom line: Heads you lose and tails I win!
Should crushes be taken seriously?
Naah and yeah!
Naah depending upon the frequency with which it hits you...for if it is as natural and recurrent as breathing air for you...it will quite naturally also pass by like the air you take in from one nostril and release from the other before it chokes you. Yeah also, because if it is as rare as hmm...say a meteor coming dangerously close to earth... then you must remember that most feelings that eventually take up the shape of love begin as a seedling of a crush. Having crushes is healthy- it ascertains that you are alive and so are your senses- attuned to appreciate, admire and get attracted to still, whether or not you are so-called “available” in the market.
So instead of resisting- admit it.
Instead of making it a mind churn, make it a mind relaxer.
Instead of sapping yourself, bloom out and reach.
Instead of crushing you down, make it help you evolve and progress! Let it catch you, without you being caught!
Let it yearn, without you being burnt!
Let it breath, not choke!