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11 May, 2010

The Sad Void of Youngsters!


Although every phase of life is beset with difficulties and its own set of issues...a sad trend is emerging in the young brigade-including teenagers to those till around 25-30 years of age and especially those who are single. One would think that getting a partner in today’s time is the simplest thing of all and just about everyone has a boyfriend/girlfriend!
Sadly it is not so!
There are too many frogs to be kissed before hitting upon the prince or princess!

The youngsters are most boggled by a sense of emptiness in their lives which they can’t put a finger on! Sometimes it is parental pressures, ambitious expectations and uncertainty of the future! Often it is lack of love or someone to share their thoughts with!
Of course it is not age binding, as the symptoms are being apparent in older generations also. However, the youngsters lacking the experience or appropriate support to handle it are getting sucked into a pathetic state of being in solitude even in a crowd!

The more I interact with those venturing into the threshold of youth, the more apparent it becomes how isolated is their existence. They have so much to say but refrain from the fear of not being understood or snubbed or laughed at! So on the surface they appear hale n hearty...but a little bit of scratching shows within a vulnerable grown-up child!

They may have friends, flashy lifestyles or good family back ups and yet somewhere down the line they are also harrowed by a gnawing sense of loneliness and a void, often a constant mind-nag that something or someone is missing!

The modern era has enabled us to communicate with a thousand people at the click of a button but not have one true soul to hear us just bare our guts out!
We may have three hundred people following us on our twitter account knowing:
-Have left for hostel!
-Mutton biryaani in lunch...mmm!
-Damn, these traffic jams!

Yet not even a handful who’d know
-That you had a pathetic fight with your parents before leaving for the hostel
-That the biryaani you may have made but have no one to accompany you to enjoy its pleasure and you shall be gulping it down alone, talking just to yourself or to a black hole called the internet.
-That while you stood there alone stranded in the traffic jam, the thought of being stuck in a life-rut drove you to the point of self destruction!

Busy schedules and just too many chores and deadlines at hand...wanting too many things too fast and then getting bored of them as easily as that....are not just the symptoms of this depressive tendency but also the factors that are preventing them from reaching out!
So it is all a viscous cycle at the end of it!
And before you know...you are whirling in a hurricane of your own emotions!

You get inclined and addicted to the first person who shows consolation and empathy towards you!
You get drawn irresistibly and addictively to any hint of empathy or understanding, isolating yourself even more from the real world!
So while our best friend may not know what’s bothering our mind...an internet buddy would not just know but also be guiding you through the mess! A puppet show, anyone? The strings slowly move out of our hands as we merely become slaves to our emotions! We feel crappy one day and happy at another for no apparent reason at all triggering them!

Everyone’s bored of just existing...
This despite that we now have at our disposal a host of technical facilities...a hundred channels on the television, the social networking sites providing you a throng of “friends” at the click of a button, mobiles to help you be tracked no matter what, blogs to vent out your deep n latent feelings and more hang outs in posh looking malls to kill time! You have the world at your feet and yet your feet refuse to budge...take you further!
What fetters are these?

And yet the boredom!
Is it justified?

Or is it the case of too much on the platter spoiling the fun out of enjoying each individually!
We are gulping down instead of relishing!
We are texting a “send to all” message instead of taking out time to spread out a sheet of paper n penning our thoughts!
We are now window shopping more than going to a favourite store to lovingly hand pick!
We prefer to sleep around instead of getting into the hassles of love...or some at the other extreme edge...keep waiting for true love so desperately that they forget to reach out altogether!

We create little cocoons to shelter us fearing too much revealed is too much putting at risk!
We show the world what they and we want them to see....not what we really are!
And hence the short-lived gratification of an achievement that is as quick to fall out as sand in the hand!

What should be done?
If we are all alone...aren’t we united then in our loneliness?

Is there a solution...a suggestion...or some help?
Or is it just a part of growing up that they must endure the hard way...be killed a little everyday...to feel alive*hypothetically* some day?

61 comments:

malpani.!! said...

Brilliance..!!
Amidst so many no brainers outrageously hilarious posts.. this one comes as an awesome change..
makes me look into my life too.. when i say to myself.. m dying of boredom.. when i see my mobile phone my itouch.. my pc.. on at the same time..
its just the excessive fear... too much temptation.. that drives us to solitude sometimes..
but about relationships.. i have become a true cynic.. have seen very few relationships going all the way.. but nice post anyway.. keeping come with such stuff.. helps me with my self realization..

and to all other fellow youngsters.. i just recommend THE SECRET.. watch it dont read it..

blunt edges said...

couldn't agree with u more...a very honest piece this! :)

"We are texting a “send to all” message instead of taking out time to spread out a sheet of paper n penning our thoughts!" awesome line that!

someone who can write sensitive/sensible posts as well as churn out some really hilarious stuff, boy aren't u a deadly combination! ;)

PS: am i first??? :D

suruchi said...

Hi Malpani...
Thanks...
Though it saddens me to see how we all live in a craving that we have no way of satisfying:-(

Among the no-brainers...it is a change that I so very require for myself than for the readers:-)

It's nice to have easy reading sometime but not so nice all the time...we need tougher experiences also to make us appreciate the lighter ones:-)

Fear of what?
Being isolated...left behind?
Or fear of being without them?

And we do so badly need the faith back in relationships...
We need to enter such portals with the burning urge to feel that kind of love that makes life...
Only then we would be able to realize it...

I need to read The Secret myself...bought it about a month ago and yet not read it...
Such is life:-)

suruchi said...

@Blunts...
Hey...
Holidays over ho gaye...get down to writing again:-)

Thanks...I AM a deadly combination...as long as no one knows the code to that combination*sigh,sigh...I think not even me:-(*

You are almost the first...
Which is good enough for me:-)

Sakshi said...

Hey Su...
This post hit a couple of raw nerves. And, I think, it is a thought provoking issue right here at hand. No one in this world is above the other person's judgement. The only thing that the internet has provided us is anonymity that just lest us be.
The heart is so different from what our face says to the world all the time.
I know this because I have faced it, facing it.. and I know I will face it in the future too.
Complexes that are grilled into our minds... instead of encouraging our talents, we are thrust into the world where our parents want us to be like the other one.. who is better.
I always believe that each one of us has that little talent, that little creativity.. that X factor which makes us different from the other person.
What is needed here is sensitivity to appreciate that X factor. It may not make us a superstar, but it will definitely give us the confidence to face the world with the right attitude & the right conviction. To make sure that when you extend your friendship, you are doing it because you are liked and loved for what you are and not what you pretend to be.

Expectations are always going to be a part of each one of us, but it is important to give those expectations the right direction.

Here is an example out of my own life-
I was an average student all through... somehow worked hard and managed an awesome percentage in 10th boards, landed up in a different school to impress my mum... took up science because it was always thought that arts was for losers (Commerce I don't understand) shock number 1 was my 12th board result which was well shocking, and then I did the second mistake- instead of putting my foot down and doing law, I enrolled in engineering, flunked after a year, and then Shayon put some sense into me and told me, that to go by the world's expectation will always fail me in life. But, to do something that I am really good at, would not hurt anyone, even my parents. And, today, when I have almost finished my law, I have enough trophies and certificates to boast to my kids.

Had the mentality 'arts is for losers' or changing schools after good 10th results not been drilled in, life would have been simpler. Because, in my heart I always wanted to do law, but, I was trying to love something that the world would appreciate and not my own self.

Little things in life go a long way, simple gestures of love, care affection and to build a relationship with your parents where you can talk to them minus any hesitation goes a long way. I end wishing this all the time, especially when I see my younger sister who was brought up with all this intact.

Anand M said...

So very true...it is more so because most of us live through a paradigm that the others define for us. So we begin to define success through their eyes. What we study, what we do, how we walk, how we talk, where we go and even how we live; making sure that we are accepted by those close to us and are one step ahead of the next person coming up behind.

So after a point everything seems blank and there is a halt in your life...I got bored of my job in just three years..left it in order to find something meaningful..six good months have gone by..it still looks meaningless..our dads have been working for 30 yrs at same office, they don't get bored...

Maybe changing times and mindsets, so what used to be Midlife crisis is now coming early and hits as quarter life crisis...

Very beautifully captured...love these lines.." You get inclined and addicted to the first person who shows consolation and empathy towards you!"

P.S.:- Now you'd hardly find frogs who would want to be kissed and turn into princess, most would still be frog and do something else but kiss forget about turning princess... now don't ask me what something*

Bujurgoon ko itna idea to hoga hi(*wink)

♥ Chocolate Lover ♥ said...

" You get inclined and addicted to the first person who shows consolation and empathy towards you!"
:O :O
i guess thats what happened to me T________T
mmmmm..well I really dont know what to say T_________T
its happening to me >.<

suruchi said...

Hi Sakshi...
I absolutely agree with all that you’ve said and my heart went out to you for having been through the mess that you did...
But the important thing is that you bounced back and how!:-)

But I guess the gruelling experience made you stronger in some way....made you realize that it is very important to stand for what you believe in, instead of attempting to make the world happier*which is anyways impossible*

I am also glad you have a sensible friend in Shayon to guide you through...that is perhaps all we need at the end of the day and at the end of it all!

There is a widening generation gap in the present era becoming more conspicuous than ever...even with all the opening up of the minds...
Perhaps the parents as well as the children are so confused in their roles, that they end up becoming over rigid on certain issues and over flax on others...
All things/relationships need to be redefined...

We need to know that it is just a web that I have got tangled into myself and only I can break it...
That leads to the end of grievances:-)

I am truly happy for you Sakshi and hope for the best always coming your way
Hugsssssssssssss:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Anand...
That line when you mention that midlife crisis seems to have come early into our lives really struck me...
We have been there, done that, seen it all...too fast...
Generations living on remote controls and switching our own channels in too much haste n restlessness:/

I wish we would just stop trying to please others...we can keep people happy only if we are happy...that’s the basic truth those around us fail to understand...

And about boredom...
Well, I guess then it calls for constant movement...
Change...adapt...create...move on...
Should that be the mantra?
Would it solve the boredom crisis or just suck us deeper into it by forming a pattern?
I really don’t have answers...

Just a thought that knowing everyone is going through this in varying degrees, should be a kind of consolation...
A source of strength...that if others can...so can I...
Perhaps that would help us in breaking through:-)

P.S. I won’t ask you what...but the wink suggests I can imagine what I want to, right?;-)

suruchi said...

Hi Choco...
If that is happening to you...then please be careful of knowing that it is happening with the right person...

Sometimes we do things not because we want to...but because we have attuned our system to it....
So without thinking, we end up dialling a number...
We end up cribbing about lack of time given by another person , when we perhaps don’t even want to talk too much with him/her...

The realization again is within us...
We need to analyze if there is actually a need for a relationship or we are just using it to fill up a void till the actual one comes about...

If it is not needed...discard it!
It would be painful for a while...but just a while...
Only when we remove the clutter, can we create space for something new n worthwhile to take its space:-)

And addiction in itself is not a good word...
It means you are losing control...
Divert you attention...
Do other things you like to keep your mind off the nagging need...

I hope you would be able to...
And yes talk your problems out with someone whom you can trust...
Sharing helps big time...

P.S. I am always there too...you just need to holler
All the very best
Hugsssssssss:-)

Vagabond said...

the post is honest and fits youngsters to the 'T'. i fall in the age group that you have mentioned. but there are a certain tweaks.
like i am single and no none of my 'friends'or any of my internet buddies know what exactly is going on. and n i do not have a twitter account and my Facebook updates are random songs that get stuck on my head.i take time as the only means to solve the issue at hand. when the issues are discussed, more often than not you have a person sitting in front of you looking at you helplessly at loss as to how he can be of any help. that kind of kills me. i know i am helpless about a situation and when i see the same sense of helplessness in the face of my audience where i went to find some strength i will return more torn.
one may blame the issues discussed by you on the pressures that the youngsters are subjected to. the age that this particular generation is, is a very difficult one. the generation that succeeds us has in a span on 5 years achieved so much that we could not even in when we were 15 years old. it is the struggle of the individual to show up a face. the generation is ambitious in itself, but it also carries the ambitions of the generation that has preceded it.
the funny thing is that the previous generation transfered its hopes and aspirations to this one, while the one that follows us has gone a step further. thus one faces a competition whilst carrying all the baggage.
i don't seem to make much sense now. see the generation is also very confused and erratic. =|

BTW awesome template, let this stay
it fits the mood of the blog.

great post as usual. (did i mention that already)

sulagna ™ said...

su i think you should get into conselling cuz believe me this is a brilliantly thought and written post..no doubt you are sucha riot with the students

Dimpi said...

hey baby its a thot provoking issue.... its really happening wid todays generation... they r so closed n r surrounded wid mobiles laptops to name a few ... they need to interact with people on a personal level

Madhu said...

We are super united in lonliness..i guess we bring it all to our self.We have foprgotten that small little gestures and stuffs can take us a long way...:)


i will write today..:) Thanks for this awakening!

Ria said...

That was a very thought provoking post. Very useful, especially for teenagers coz i see most of the teens goin thru this stage. Feels bad for the kids who fall for anybody who gives them a patient hearing....sometimes the ppl the fall for turn out to be good, but most of the times otherwise is true!

Felt good to read a nice post after a long time.

P.S Dropped in from Cindy's blog. Have blogrolled u! Hope u dont mind. :)

WarmSunshine said...

I'm one of those youngsters. And I've no solution. And yes, i'm feeling *hypothetically* alive. *sigh*

Lincoln said...

a brilliant write up, so we got to see serious suruchi ;)

one needs to have true friends whom u can talk to in real life, virtual world is a dream world,,,,u deal it as a fun part of life....if it is becoming real , u should know how to deal with it and not repent later....

Shayon said...

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Shayon said...

@Su

Your post surely got me thinking. You know, when you say today's youngsters are perennially sad, or lost, I can almost agree with it. But when you try and compare today's scenario with our ancestors, that sounds kinda impractical to me.

Back in those days, having a single job and staying in it for years was the norm, because it was associated with stability. Today, stability means having at least 2 cars, a house, and decent bank balance to afford one overseas trip for your family, every two years.

Back in those days, people would come back home, enjoy time with their families, even take them out for a movie or dinner once in a while, and everyone was happy. Today, a man comes back home, makes himself a drink, and land up before his comp, updating his FB status update. He could always go out with family, right? Wrong! His wife's still in office, and the kids are out to tuition, or on a date, or just in their own rooms, updating their own FB statuses.

Back then, children used to celebrate their b'day parties with the family members. Today, kids want it in KFC or Mc Donald's. Worse, they don't even include their own parents and siblings in their b'day celebrations.

So, you know, the equations have changed. Personally, I feel there is no point in brooding over the past. Things are always supposed to change. You can not really keep looking back and compare.

But yes, you can always look at the situations today, and try to come up with the best possible solution. One thing that I have always appreciated is the ability to adapt. One of the major advantages of change - had it been 20 years back from now, I would have addressed you as "Suruchi Aunty", and not "Su" ;-)

Speaking of the younger generation turning to the Internet for help, for a means to fill their void, it's a two-way tunnel. You got to choose the one you wanna head in. I mean, Sakshi and I had actually met online, on Hi5, discussing about the book Da Vinci Code. But then, things move on from that point and today we are in love. Every relationship has its ups and downs, we had more than our fair share too. But then, we are still standing strong, aren't we?

And then, I have also seen a lot of online relationships gone sour, people got cheated, even had a guy in my college who made the girl masturbate on camera, while half of the hostel was watching it, miles away. And the poor girl thought he was in love with her.

So, you know, I would never say that online relationships are bad, or even friendships. But yes, one got to be cautious, one got to keep his eyes and ears open. You can not jump into *anything* with even thinking about it, and it's consequences. I know love can sweep you off your feet. But then, the very same love can shatter your whole life faster than you can imagine.

But, if the same love manages to sweep you off your feet, even though you keep your feet tightly placed on the ground, that love will never allow you to fall. Cheesy, probably. But then, that's my belief.

oh, before I click on the submit button, I would like to say one more thing. If you can not confide in our best friend, but do so in someone else, Internet buddy or not, then rather than thinking why are you not talking to your best friend, it is more important to wonder whether that certain friend of yours is actually your best friend or not!

It was just today my Boss said something to me, "u make the best effort for her...why shud she look elsewhere?"

Jack said...

Suruchi,

I agree with you mostly. The new generation believes in super-sonic age. Gone are old values of relations or personal touch. That is expected in the age of nuclear families. Who has the time to inculcate good values in the young ones? Nannies? Peers? or Neighbours? I still remember how my grandmother used to tell me stories with lessons at bedtime. Net friends are fine but how many are genuine? It is always more effective when there is personal touch. But how does one develop trust? Each person has to set his or her own safeguards while going for such guidence from someone elder and experienced. In joint families it was easy as one had slightly elder uncles / aunts or cousines apart from grandparents whom one could confide into. So we now pay for progress. I hope youngsters can understand values of family ties.

Take care

Jack said...

Suruchi,

In my previous comment I missed out to telling role teachers have in building future generation. In my time they used to take pride not only in bringing up their pupils in studies but in instilling good habits too.

Take care

mohit said...

okay...now y wud u choose to write on this?

but you're right in a way...there is an emptiness in a lot of ppl....but the myth is that it gets filled up with a 'partner'.


No. it could get filled up by anything that the person's really interested in...sports, a hobby or whatever.....only, Love's easier, cozier and obviously more desired by ze hormones !

Niraj said...

One word to define this post,excellent !! I must say Tumbling thoughts just make our thoughts process to tumble and think the reality rather than living in the fiction world which is full of plastic smiles. I completely agree with your post, I have also mention in my post "those were the days These are the days" what we are showing is not emotions its just grilling effect of electronic molecules flowing from one hardware to another hardware. It has the molecules but it lacks emotions..We have Pen but we prefer keyboards..WE have so many trees going down for paper but we prefer MS Word. WE have 2 sec for Sms but not a second to call..Truth is as we are progressing, we are upgrading the medium of technology we are degrading the status of relations..

OR

on lighter side its just like Mr.Lemon who say for investment and still does not transfer..ha ha ha

buckingfastard said...

an internet genius once said, "its a gud thing one cant kill over internet"

but the bad thing is one cant even hug over internet!!

but u kno what...a suruchi in the 90's used to be a teacher cum housewife...she dint used to reach out to hundreds of ppl...coz she dint had means....a BF in the 90's used to write poems in the back of his classwork copy(well literally true)...coz he was to shy to read it in front of his class...

the day we start counting the fors and againsts of this emotionless speed living of 21st century...fors are gonna win...and dat doesnt makes the 'againsts' less significant!!

♫ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♫ ayu ♫ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♫ said...

very nice topic..i can say that i have felt that way when i was a kid ^_^ i can relate to this :/

(p.s. check out my latest post if you have time,,.thanks :3)

sobhit said...

hi dear agony aunt... :P i 2 belong 2d early twenties generation... kafi gyan bata apne... only u ended d post wid question marks???? ???? solution kaha gaya?? nxt post on dat?? or is it d post hs d solution hidden in btween??? ;p

sure u hitting d nail rite on d head but guess evry1 gota get thru der own shit demslvs... odrs can only advc but cant be in ur shoes n face or go thru wot ppl hv2 demslvs.. wont say i can relate 2 it.. cos in bits n peices i 2 myt b living it :P... but by d end of d day, it comes dwn 2d choices n perception.. rite or wrong gota mk dem... dis way or dat way.. i gues its imp 2 to go thru dis phase f life 2 realise d worth f lesser things (wich infact r not) .

if v dnt c d bad v wud nvr knw wots gud rite?? or rahtr is der any rite or wrong?? ;p

Anonymous said...

Hi Suruchi,

I stumbled on your blog this evening....found it very nice. You still write the same way you used to back in high school.... just the thought process is profoundly mature.

Take care.

Pavitra .... said...

This post is really good...I found myself in quite a few situations you mentioned....
I do that sometimes...tell people things that they wanna know about me...and not more...sometimes i feel that there are hardly 3-4 people who actually know the real me...
and I do believe that people are going away from each other with the development of technology...Thats why i always make it a point to personalize messages if i cant call...i never make a "send to all" kind of thank you...or congrats message so that my work is done faster...
your post really made me think a lot... :) :)
tumbling thoughts at its best!! :)

The Bald Guy said...

Yawn.

Rishi said...

everything put here is quite true

but to understand all of this u really first need to know what relationships are about.. (i've got plenty of exp in that ) and only then was i able to understand that relationships just not need to be a gf/bf thing... anything's fine

as long as u can express urself..

i now njoy being a loner... expressing myself via blogs, videos (new thing), twitter, songs, a bit of PJ's with pals etc

but it took time and patience for that...

http://theparanormalguy.blogspot.com/

Prithwish....... said...

extremely profound..u have unbuttoned a rather disturbing trend prevalent in todays youngsters nowadays..
the concept of emotional security has been misconstrued by youngsters..they fall in and fall out of relationships in search of that security..
well written..:)

Sudhir Kekre said...

hi suruchi,
as usual a brilliant post. must say your students are lucky to have a teacher like you.

suruchi said...

Hi Vb,
I know you are a super strong individual on the surface at least, though there’s a sea of vulnerability within...
That’s my perception of you..

I used to be like you...in the sense...I would also have a protective wall around me n not discuss anything going on in my mind with others...
That slowly was killing me within...
I was hoarding more resentments, more disappointments, n more negativity...

I now realise that sharing your emotions helps in creating a space in your mind for more n better thoughts to filter in...otherwise there’s too much of a clutter and that causes suffocation...

Of course till date only 50 % of the real me is known to people and consciously distributed over a larger audience than a select one or two..
This distribution is also based on judging who is capable enough of listening, understanding n retaining...

I suggest you do the same...it makes you happier n lighter...
Leaving things on time often leaves us in a mixed up, ruffled state of mind!

Maybe you are turning to the wrong audience...
If they look at you with helplessness instead of just even words of support...they are not worth venting your guts out to:/

I loved the expression of “struggle of an individual to show up a face”
Superbly true:-)
You made sense Vb...so no confusion there:-)

Thanks for all the encouragement and praise n adding new dimensions to the thought:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Su...
I so wanna do the same...I want to get into counselling for I feel I can listen to, understand and retain...and sometimes offer solutions that just might work...

However, I am also not qualified for the same...
Or else this would have been my vocation for sure...
There’s nothing more comforting for me than the realisation that I helped someone sort out an issue that was cramping him up...

Thanks Su:-)
Hugsssssssss as always:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Dimpi maasi,
I can understand you understanding this, with two grown up sons...it does get as baffling for children as it does for parents...
For there is clear confusion on how much would be “too much interference” and how much “too much indifference”...

The interaction on the personal level also does not come with everyone...it takes that something to click to get there:-)

Thank you maasi for being around here also:-)

suruchi said...

Hey Maddy...
Wow...you don’t need the awakening yaar...
You awaken others...:-)

I liked the stress on being “super united”
I guess certain things move along with us without our realization n some others that we always feel are there...never really are:-)

Lemme check out what you wrote after this awakening...
Would be an eye opener in its own right!

suruchi said...

Hi Ria...
Thank you...I too noticed the same n hence the penning down here:-)
If I can do any bit to help...I would feel so comforted coz it troubles me to see lonely people when there is a world waiting out there to grasp them...

Wish I could do more than just tell them to break out, reach out and speak out...love life, live life...spread joy n stay positive...
It would all keep returning back to us in that way!

P.S. I am more than glad that you dropped by...I lost my mind long time back so there is no question of me minding anything at all:-)

suruchi said...

@WarmSunshine...
Hi Mehreen...
You write such beautiful posts on love and all that...
So it’s kinda difficult to believe that a person who writes about beauty may feel less beautiful about things from inside...

It is all upto us after a point...we should stop looking for solutions because they rarely come about or fade after a plateau of giving us satisfaction...
So we need to keep feeding our mind with the thoughts that all would be well...tell our mind that we are happy n soon we’d start believing it...

We need to form friendships that last...that get based on trust after trials n tribulations...we need to do things that make US happy n not others...
For staying happy is the key to open the look of the box of eternal happiness...

I hope n pray you also find your way:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Lincoln....
Not your kinda post from my end...all serious-sherious n all:-)
But thanks all the more for reading it then...:-)
Yup....FRIENDS ARE VITAL...like I just said to Mehreen above...

For a long time of my life I believed that friendships were unnecessary...and should be within bounds...you give only partially..
But now it has dawned on me that friendships are not based on convenience or too much caution...
You must give a whole lot to get some:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Shayon...
I do not intend to compare things today with the past times...
The world that we live in today is far more complicated than what was laid before our predecessors...

Things earlier changed at the year span of 10 to 15 years...
Now they change every five years or sometimes even in 2-3 years there are marked differences in all scenarios...
Much like the government...

My point was to state merely that we cannot in fact expect our children now to behave in a certain way, fight with a set of problems, etc just as we used to do earlier...they are going through a whole lot more that can be imagined!

I did not really like the “Suruchi Aunty” bit....but then such is life...like The Bald guy says...shit happens...
Hehe...it’s so true!

And you my dear sound so much in love...which is sooooooo adorable...
We started off on youngsters’ insecurity and ended up on finding love on the net...touchwood...
I agree with what you said before signing off...but then all those around us, who get included in our “friend” circle may not qualify for being trust worthy...and new random friendships sometimes take the cake...

P.S. 1 Your boss is a sensible man...listen to him
P.S. 2 Where do talk about Da Vinci Code n get cute guys like you?;-)

suruchi said...

Hi Jack...
Yup...we do pay for progress...we pay for all good things that we enjoy in our life...
I was watching this ad of mobiles on the television that spoke of a concept called “speed living”
It quite stuck with me...
It says that there is no reason why we can’t have our cake n eat it too...
No reason why we can’t be at two places at the same time...
No reason why we need to halt or rethink where we are going...

Perhaps that kind of a mind set is doing the damage...
The greed for more...the hunger to get it all...leaves us no where and with nothing...
We do need families....guides is whatever roles around us to assist us on our way to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our lives!

Thank you as always for sharing your thoughts!

suruchi said...

Helloooo Mohit,
Why would I choose to write on this, you ask?
Simply because it is something that is being apparent in all of us and thwarting the smooth flow of our lives....the emptiness gifted to us by our super sonic age....

Being older...it is at least hoped that we would get past it...
Being younger n like you say “being me” we often get sucked into a depressive state thereby...
Hence the idea was to tell that we are not alone in this...to tell that we must realize this is a problem n work upon solving it...
The idea is to together come put with some effective solutions for the same...

A partner does not necessarily fill up that void...but he/she makes it easier to bear...n like you said...obviously more cosier too:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Niraj...
You reminded me of what I said to my friend recently...
He said that he had written a brilliant article on his note pad n he was feeling very proud of it...
I asked him to show it to me...
And he said he felt lazy in typing it down...
I got onto his case asking how long does to take to copy paste...
That’s when he said the article was hand written and in his note book...

It was difficult for me to fathom why would someone write something on paper when you have computers on which you could do so!

Such is life...we forget that we ought to do things for the love of it!
Thank you for the praise as always...I am glad I live up to your expectations!

“we are upgrading the medium of technology we are degrading the status of relations”
Brilliantly said...n yes...still waiting for you know what!;-)

suruchi said...

BF...helloo ji...
I know what that internet genius said...
That is why you are still alive after what you said on my last post;-)

And yup...the bad part is definitely that we can’t hug...
Otherwise I would have hugged to death almost everyone with whom I interact here on this platform...

Oh wow...poetry written at the back of the classwork copy...
I better start reading the back pages of my students from now onwards...who knows there may be a little buckingfastard blooming in some of them...

You should have shown the poem to the gals...we love poems of any kinds...especially if they are written for us*yup even the crappy ones...and you my dear are brilliant at your poetic musings...the last post would vouch for that...:)

“fors” would definitely win when compared with “Againsts”
I just wish the ‘againsts’ would leave us more bearably happy

suruchi said...

Hi Ayu...
Thanks...we all relate to the idea of being lonely at some point or the other...for eventually we all really are!

suruchi said...

Hi Sobhit...
Hmm...gyan baata...solutions dhoondhne ke try bhi maare....
Shayad beech mein kuch mila...

1. we are all lonely...so I am not more hopeless than my neighbour
2. we all need to share...only when we share do we let another person care...feeling hoarded within lead to eventual rotting
3. we must stay positive...the more we let depressing thoughts come to our mind...the more they decide to comfortably house themselves within our mind space on a permanent basis...
4. find out friends who are worth being called friends...not because they were there to listen...but because you know they would stand by you no matter what
5. we need to slow down...on our hunger for more n greed to do it all at the same time...speed living should be discouraged n not vice versa...

Plus some more points...and like you said...we all have to fight our own battles...others can only advice...we can mould our minds to make our destiny...our rejoice n our regrets:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Anon...
Thank you so much...
To say that you recognize my writing abilities since high school would mean that I know you since then...

I wish you would not write as anonymous and let me feel the pleasure of knowing who found me worth a praise...

Thanks nevertheless:-)

suruchi said...

Hey Pavitra...
I so agree with putting up a personalised touch to all that you do...
Lot of people ask me why I take the pains to answer to each comment separately...I tell them that I do so because that is the way I am...

I would never do a generalised gesture...hopefully even when I have a thousand followers*please please let that happen soon n also make true my claims here*
At least I would not like to...
Work may be done faster that way...but then we lose on the human relation bit...on the personal reaching out...
I guess that’s a realization in itself there:-)

WarmSunshine said...

@ suruchi
thanks girl :)

suruchi said...

Hey Tbg....
Oho...yowan mein yawn!
Yeh ache baat nahi hain!
Sorry if I put you to sleep...I didn’t intend to, I swear*all the puns intended though*:-)

suruchi said...

Hi Rishi,
Relationships or friendships are the key here...of course not gf/bf kinds...but then it does make the whole thing cosier...like we discussed above!

Enjoying being a loner is good...but for how long?
In life, we always enjoy the easy experiences more...easy reads, comical movies, nearest mall, 2 minutes snack...

But then, it’s not so always...
We also need books that make us rack our brains!
Movies that make us feel n realize
And outings that break the comfort zone...

Basically, what I am trying to say is...comfort zones don’t last forever...
And then, it’s important to have someone to fall back on to:-)
Wish we could all have your kinda patience!:-)

suruchi said...

Hey Prithwish...
Thank you...
Emotional security is taking a heavier toll than any physical discomfort or materialistic aspirations!

I so hope we can break through the strands of complacency and stereo type moulds of aspirations n ambitions n expectations!

suruchi said...

Helloooooo Sudhir,
Thank you...though most of my students are unaware of this aspect of mine...yet I am glad someone thinks I am a super worthwhile teacher...

Stay around:-)

suruchi said...

@WS...
You are most welcome!
Always there...like I tell my friends...you just need to holler n I'd be at your service:)
Hugsssss

Shayon said...

@Su
Hahaha! It was a social networking site called Hi5. The site's still operational, but has gone the MySpace way (read: extinct).

And well, if I listened to my boss, by now I'd have been married for sure.

Anonymous said...

hi suruchi,

we did know each other back in high school - class of 94'. Those were good times....come on think hard sis we were only 32....
I read your blog on your 10th anniversary it was so beautifully written...You guys make a lovely couple. Belated good wishes.
As for remaining anonymous that will change too once you remember who I am you will realize I havent change a lot over time - still as shy and withdrawn as ever.

suruchi said...

Hi Shayon...
Hi5...hmm...I remember joining it n giving up on it on the very same day;-)

Okay listen partially to your boss...whatever n however you take that to mean;-)

suruchi said...

Dear Anonymous
My god...u want me to make a guess out of 32...and that too when you were shy n withdrawn!

Wow!I guess I'd have to wait for you to come around...coz I am kinda lost;-)

Thanks anyways for the praise n for being around:-)

pRasad said...

Clap ..Clap for this really good post. It's one of the best posts I have come across ever since I joined blogger.

What should I say more? you should have been psychologist. I really admire the way you think. Following this blog:)

pRasad said...

I would like to add - As someone said in past comments, we are always look for person who care for us, with whom we can share everything. If the person is from opposite sex, we tend to get involved & think it's love.. Maybe that's the reason many relationships do not sustain for quite long ..& we keep on wondering WHAT WENT WRONG ?

suruchi said...

Hi pRasad..
Welcome to my blog and thank you so much for the appreciation...it always pumps in a new burst of enthusiasm to watch someone out of the blue, praises your efforts!

And to say that it is one of the best posts ever..makes me feel humbled as well as elated!

The younger generation*or for that matter* everyone in the current times is a mixed bag when it comes to the matters of love...
Often we don't recognize it when it is there or exaggerate it where it is not!
And hence long term disappointments...

Being in love is so much different from being addicted to someone...now if only we could clearly demarcate the boundaries between the two!
If we could really understand love!

Hope to see you around:-)

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